I am a foster mom. I remember the first time I saw the numbers about foster care. The numbers showing how many kids are in foster care are staggering, but for me, these numbers have faces, they have a story and these stories are tough to hear. These kids are in the system for no fault of their own and I hope my story helps alleviate some myths, sheds some light on what it’s like to have a foster child in your home, and inspires you join Crummack Huseby to make “Sweet Cases” for foster children on June 29th!
Children in the foster care system are not “bad kids,” but they do come from very hard places through no fault of their own. We need to grant them grace while they try to process these big feelings in their tiny bodies. My current foster daughter had to grow up faster than a child should have to and she is just one of hundreds of thousands of kids in the US system.
Currently, we have our second foster daughter. Juggling visits with family, doctors’ appointments, countless visits with social workers, phone calls with attorneys, visits with a CASA worker, maintaining contact with the school, mountains of paperwork while making sure not to take away from special moments with my husband and younger daughter all are part of our new normal.
Foster care is not for the faint of heart. It is grueling, time consuming, emotional and frustrating but knowing that we are providing a safe and stable home for a child makes all the tears, trials and tribulations worth it. There are also times that bring joy like when she brought home an award for having a 4.0, or that she met some new friends, or when a younger child walks for the first time or says their first word.
You are the difference maker for them. Being a foster parent means that you are this child’s protector and role model and you get to celebrate these milestones with them like they are your own child. You get to be their cheerleader, you get to give them a high five for a job well done, you get to let them know that someone in this world cares so very much for them!
Sometimes the placements are short-term or they can be years. There is no clear path for a child’s case in the system so you need to learn how to roll with whatever is thrown your way. Our first placement only lasted a week but not a day goes by where I don’t think of the sweet blue-eyed, blonde curly-topped little angel who made such a lasting impact in our home. We were also made aware that our recent foster daughter would only be with us for a little over four months, due to her case plan created through the courts. I know this little girl is going to make something great of her life and I am happy that we will be able to stay in contact. I hope that we somehow we were a difference maker in her life and I am grateful for the four months she was part of our family.
I can’t say for certain whether we will have another placement but maybe after our hearts mend a little from having to say goodbye, we will open our door to another child who needs a home. I do know for certain that helping children in need is my passion and I will advocate for any child that needs a home. Every child deserves a family.
One of the reasons I love working at Crummack Huseby is because they embrace everyone's personal story. It's why we're coming together at our offices for the second year in a row, with Together We Rise, to help foster kids through their “Sweet Cases” initiative. Each “Sweet Case” is a duffel bag that includes a hygiene kit, a blanket, a stuffed animal, coloring book, crayons, and other various items.
Thank you for supporting our CH-arity efforts throughout the year.
Hope to see you on June 29th
About Together We Rise. A nonprofit that creates engagement opportunities for the public to give back through our programs such as Sweet Cases, Build-A-Bike, Build-A-Board and our Birthday Boxes. Our Family Fellowship and Aging Out program also provides resources to older youth who are leaving the foster care system. We strive to be the helping hand that foster youth need so that they may go confidently onto their futures. https://www.togetherwerise.org/ Each “Sweet Case” is a duffel bag that includes a hygiene kit, a blanket, a stuffed animal, coloring book, crayons, and other various items.
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